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Bad Habit

I have just finished my 21 day no social media challenge.

It has been THE best and most refreshing thing to happen to me this year. Let's call it shedding the mind numbing selfietastic narcissism, that keeps us glued to a screen, comparing ourselves and our lives with each others' to see who's better, with endless scrolling, mental anxiety, toxic vibes and self worth issues to name but a few.

I guess my insight as a life coach has taught me that 'living your best life social media style' is more illusion than real. In the beginning of lockdown it was a platform to keep in touch with friends, clients, acquaintances. I enjoyed seeing everyones daily life knowing they were safe, well and managing to keep their businesses afloat. The intention was good. Pure. So at what point did it all change?

Having never been one for reality T.V. shows, glossy sensationalised magazines, or gossip, how did social media have the power to take over a lot of my time? I'm really not sure how to answer that. I guess keeping grounded in the real world, yes the one outside screen time lost it's attraction and plastic fantastic land got a hold of me and the bad habit began. Listening to the needs of my clients brought about a big awareness that we were all getting allured into a false existence and it was causing strange behaviour.

Please know I am not judging those who are really active on their media platforms, we are part of life's rich tapestry which is a beautiful thing. I'm sharing my own views shared by those I work with and at this moment in time they are being birthed into life via my blog.

Isolation and alone time was forced upon us. Netflix subscriptions went through the roof as did imported chardonnay from Australia (seemingly the majority of those luscious grapes came to the UK). Those with coping strategies seemed to weather the lockdown storm? We all needed some sort of escapism and social media became the saviour. Yet when I analysed my screen time it questioned how I managed to work and have time to scroll? Was I even communicating with my son? (Sorry Max). Time for the reality check! To change. Abandoning that avatar and coming back into the real world.

There is beautiful world out there. One I fell in love with all over again. My spare time was focused on me again and a lot more self care. I genuinely do not miss social media. I broke the bad habit and will not be reforming it. Many friends and clients commented they would find it impossible to stop it for 21 days. I found it liberating and no, I didn't sneak a peek if you are wondering.

Connecting back to my causes felt good. I watched Sea Spiracy on Netflix and cried. Why are we still producing anything made from plastic? And why are the governments not banning this toxic material? Sigh. Can we all stop buying plastic, please. Nature has already gifted us sustainable materials.

I started a 21 day cleanse.

Maintained my running.

Gained mental clarity.

Prepared for post lockdown.

My question is could you leave facebook, instagram, snapchat and other platforms for 21 days? Would you gift yourself the experience?

I challenge you to do it!

The GLOW up

2020. What an incredible year. Highs. Lows. Loss. Everything in-between. The whole world has experienced the same thing simultaneously. A moment in time we will talk about for the rest of our lives. We did it!

Today is Saturday, if that means anything?! Weekend vibes seem to have lost their momentum. Yet we can turn this energy around and start our GLOW up, right here, right now. If like me you've had enough of the same same habitual living, with added insult of elasticated waists for extra measure, today is the day it changes.

Christmas is just around the corner and holds different meaning for all of us. Love it or loath it, the story itself is all about birth. So let us rebirth ourselves. An upgraded version. Yes please. Feeling that glow heighten from within has never felt so good.

Hello happy vibes. Goodbye expectations. Embracing love. Spiritual practise. Acceptance. Pressing the fuckety bye bye button. And breathe.

Energetically we are in eclipse season which finishes on Monday's new moon. Yes more releasing is on the cards. Let's be honest, we all need it - no one has escaped the 2020 gloom. Waving goodbye to a ten year cycle, with the knowledge that the age of aquarius is about to shine upon us. Hallelujah. There is hope. Light. New beginnings. Starting over.

Let the GLOW up begin.

- Do things that bring you happiness, prompting a smile and laughter from the inside out. Share that energy with others even if they scorn their resting bitch face right back at you.

- Wear your favourite clothes, colours and fragrance. I could write a book about the hilarious comments I've had from random strangers re my stylish dress sense at the supermarket. God I love the Scots - nae messin'

- Play music. Dance. Sing. Like no one is watching.

- Maintain spiritual practise. Meditation. Chanting. Breathing. Yoga. Stretching. Exercise. Mindfulness.

- Hydrate. Hydrate. Hydrate. With water. Cut back on alcohol. It will help you sleep.

- Think gratitude and the blessings in your life. There is always something to be grateful for. 

Wishing you all a glow up Saturday gorgeous souls. Sending each and everyone of you love love love.

Magical beginnings are here to stay!

Got to laugh

It's 6am in the morning. I've been awake since 4am. I'm sipping my second cup of fresh coffee and writing this blog. This is not a usual thing for me as I love my sleep, yet this morning I awoke to loud noises in the house.

I jump out of bed, go to my sons bedroom and open his door. He looks at me shocked, reminiscent of a rabbit in headlights.

 

'Mum, why are you awake?' he asks.

'I heard a noise in the house and wanted to check you're ok' I reply.

'Yeh, I'm good, just tidying my room' he says.

'It's 4am. You've woken me up. What in gods name are you doing!?' I ask.

'Mum. Tidying my room. You've been on at me for ages, so I'm doing it' he replies.

 

Keep it together I say to myself. Do not over react with your Sagittarius rising fire. Breathe. Let it go. Let it go. LET IT GO.

 

'Erm, can I ask why you chose this time to tidy it?' I enquire.

'Yeh sure, I couldn't sleep....' is his reply.

'Max you've woken me up! I'm now wide awake. I won't go back to sleep' I snap.

'Mum, I just wanted to make a start on it. I didn't mean to wake you. Sorry' he says.

'Well that didn't work' is my sarcastic response as I go downstairs to make my first coffee.

 

How do you react to such a laid back Leo who is now sound asleep, while his mother sits wide awake, bursting with caffeine and pondering her next move?

Let me tell you. You don't.

 

'It's just as well you're loved!' I say to him with a smile on my face and coffee in hand.

 

2020 has been a continual sequence of WTF moments. I'm so over it. I have invested in amazing concealer. I can laugh. And I absolutely love my son, even when he's a bloody pest.

So, if you see me today and think I'm looking tired with bags under my eyes, just know these bags are more precious than a Mulberry.

Life is weird and we are all reacting to it in different ways.

Keep compassion in your mind, love in your heart and everything will be ok.

Natalie Alexander

"Make your life a story worth telling"